wonder, “What went wrong?” or “Why did he break up with
fell apart– because they unknowingly played a role in it. Fortunately, David
former “Bachelorette” contestant and winner of the
reality TV show “Bachelor Pad”, has the answers. An expert on dating
do’s and don’ts, Good is helping women get inside the minds of men in his book “The Man Code: A Woman’s Guide to Cracking the
who exhibits pride, chivalry, and respect. It’s also about finding true
happiness with a guy who’s a man among men,” says Good.
man, “They are a little rough around the edges but are honest and straight
forward and will treat a woman with respect and treat them like their queen
once they decide to make that commitment. It’s about honesty and earning a man
code man’s trust. Once you get that, you are theirs and they want
everyone to know it.”
type of guy? According to Good, there are some specific things that women do to
push great guys away. This list is not just based on his own experience, but
feedback he’s received from other men.
change the man. If a man makes a change for a relationship, the benefit must
outweigh the consequences of that change. “I get it: You don’t want anything to
make me as happy as you do. But if you’re willing to chase this result by eliminating
everything else I might love from my life, then I don’t want you”, says
poker. “It’s better to conserve emotion for only the most meaningful
circumstances,” Good says. While men pay attention to overall themes, women
tend to sweat the small stuff. He wants women to know that ulterior motives are
not a Man Code man thing to play at, if he’s out late with his friends, he’s
just out late with his friends.
chivalrous but also “red-blooded and carnal” like most guys. If a woman offers
sex on the first, any man will probably take her up on that. A woman that can
walk away with a goodnight kiss and leave the man guessing appeals much more to
men. They like the thrill of a chase.
“quiet.” In other words, it’s what you do when no one is looking, how
you find their hand when things are bad and tell them it’s okay. If you hear “I
love you” constantly it loses it’s value. “Love is the result of the events in
our lives, not the result of talking about the idea of it,” assures Good.
lives, declares Good. When women are disloyal to other women, it tells the man
they will be disloyal to them, too.
of and protected, a man wants to know he’s the one that made her feel that way.
Good explains, “With a look or word, you can empower us.”
Don’t forget why your man fell for you. Woman AND men seem to stop doing
the little things they did at the beginning of a relationship that made it fun.
Think back and try doing some of the little things you “used” to do